Sexploration with Monika
Sexploration with Monika

Tea w/ dominatrix, slave, male dom, & submissive & switch  You can hear a quickie of the first-ever episode of Sexploration with Monika which debuted in 2007 on Erotic Radio Live. This is an edited 10 min demo version of "The BDSM Tea Party" for the article "Professionally Homeless for Sex Talk." Sexploration with Monika explores how women and men get what they want in the context of sex and relationships, with a heavy emphasis on exploring new ideas, consent, negotiation, safe sex, kink, connection, communication, and play. Sexploration with Monika show topics range from sex-robots, Japanese bondage and other fetishes, metamorphasexuals, polyamory, and tips on having the perfect menage-et-trois. You can enjoy how "golly gee whiz" I am when they clue me about pegging, obviously this was before I was a Certified Sexual Health Educator! LoL Thanks to David Fratto of Media Posse for donating valuable production time for the first few shows in his lovely studios on Haight Street in SF. It was not uneventful (but it was a learning experience), & I'm sure his neighbors have forgotten all the strange noises by now!

Direct download: SexplorationDemoBDSMTeaParty10min.mp3
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Take a bite of Erotic Fine Artist Nancy Peach

Erotic Fine Artist Nancy Peach flowered from church lady to San Francisco's bold and daring sex-positive oil painter who paints dominatrixes and porn stars bigger than life, with gold leaf, fishnets and flowers. We'll discuss how Nancy flowered from church lady to Erotic Fine Artist under Femina Potens & bondage porn star Madison Young. We also talk about how going from architectural artist to erotic fine artist affected her traditional marriage and two children. You can catch Sexploration with Monika LIVE on Facebook too! You can go to Nancy's gallery opening in Santa Cruz at Pure Pleasure First Fridays tomorrow February 3rd 2017 & March 3rd 2017 and all the sexy oil paintings in between. 

Direct download: Sexploration170121_NancyPeachEroticFineArtLIVE.mp3
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Masquerotica 2013: Costumes & Consent Are Sexy

You can join me live on location at the epic sf sexy-party Masquerotica with Club Exotica, Bondage-A-Go-Go, Syd Gris, Cabaret de Caliente, Barron Scott Levkoff of Kinky Salon, Dark Garden, Mama Fou, and Clod Hop with Carnival Fantastique, Joegh of Anon Salon and so much mmmore! We'll describe the sights, sounds, eye-popping costumes and sexy goings-on, how to make a sexy corset that's COMFORTABLE, and all the myriad of ways to get consent (so you can make sure the person you are touching actually enjoys it) including the ever-so blackbelt move the "ask without asking." Masquerotica is an annual sexy pre-Halloween costume party that dares to discourage touristing and bad manners by outlawing street clothes, looky-loos, and unwanted advances. It's a "second base" party so consensual hugging, kissing, making out, above-the-waist groping/frotterage/fondling/pleasurable touching are A-OK. You'll hear Wes and I be surprised by some light and very exhibitionist BDSM play "cropping up" just before our eyes.  

Direct download: Sexploration131019_Masquerotica2013.mp3
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Bondage, Clowns, Gods, Piercing, & Sex-Positive Parenting

You can join us now in the leather-scented midst of the Sexploration with Monika bondage dinner at supperclub. We'll speak with educator of adventurous sexuality Midori about her history with performance art, Italian Clowns, donuts with an especially messy surprise, and the Japanese art of flower arranging plus bondage. Then Midori will introduce us to blogger and sex-positive parent Lidia Anain who'll open our eyes about parenting strategies that consider consent and autonomy. How do you parent without "making" your kid do stuff, and how does that relate to creating consent culture? Burlesque dancer Dorian Faust describes pagan god Baphomet, who represents the duality of male and female... and why this deity often ended up looking like Satan. Then erotic piercing performer Lady Samar will tell us why she likes hanging from hooks in her flesh... even on TV in Norway. Thanks to the lovely Julia O Test for the photos from the bondage dinner! 

Direct download: Sexploration1211115_BondageClownsGodsPiercing.mp3
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Masquerotica: The Yes Yes Yes Party

You can join us right now at the big sexY costume party Masquerotica where thousands of people are saying yes to what they think is fun, and consent is the new sexy (not that consent ever goes out of style;). We'll interview SF's sex-positive glitterati, a latex snow leopard, vampire food, and erotic electrifier, the leader of the apocalypse army, and a very kinky clown about how knowing that you can say no, makes it save for you to say yes, to all sorts of experiences and pleasures and sexy moments that we'd like to share with you live, on-location from Masquerotica 2012. From Barron Scott Levkoff to Kracker the Klown, and plenty of sights, sounds, and sensations in between we'll talk about consent and exploration up one side and down the other all over this party. Plus we'll learn how electricity on skin can actually relax and excite some people so much that they have 4 orgasms (with their clothes on & not even touching any "naughty" bits!) Violet Wand virtuoso William from Bondage-A-Go-Go will reveal some of his electricity play techniques and unexpected "special spots." How can you start a Kinky Salon in your hometown? There's a KinkyWiki for you DIY community creators and creatrixes!

Direct download: Sexploration121020_YesYesYesParty.mp3
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Sex at Burning Man, DIY Goddess Temples, & Brothels Serving Women

This is your relationship on Burning Man: You've barely slept or eaten in 6 days and dehydrated not just because this is the desert but also the water in your camelback tastes like warm plastic dust. You were distracted by a glimpse of your old boss on a bike wearing nothing but a backpack and sneakers, so a luminescent green dragon just drove away with your sweetie and 17 gorgeous half-naked strangers. Do you have a "just in case we get lost" plan with your partner? What if the temple is going to burn in 10 minutes and one of you isn't ready? You're probably not going to "just find each other" out there and there are no cell phones or street signs. It's 50,000 people in the pitch black night. Nothing goes as planned on the playa especially sex and relationships. Burning Man isn't "one giant orgy," but there are a few(!) - plus workshops on female ejaculation, bondage, polyamory, "hands on" sex classes, and even the "Great Canadian Beaver-Eating Contest" in which everything is consensual and no beavers are harmed. Join Sexploration with Monika in the moonlight at Fugue, a camp-out in Northern California as we talk with Epiphany Jordan about sex at Burning Man, building a temple to the goddess in Texas (The Blue Star Temple), the benefits of tantra, what a brothel for women might look like, and how to build sexual energy into your real estate.

Direct download: Sexploration120806_SexAtBurningMan.mp3
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Live w/ Midori @ 8-Course Gourmet Erotic Dinner

How can you almost psychically tease the deepest, most delicious fantasy out of your partner's mind? Almost an hour of sex-intellectual on-location interviews from the 8-course gourmet dinner with the best female bondage rigger in the whole world, Midori, sex educator, and artist. We'll also speak with Fleur de Lis SF, San Francisco's Sluttiest Blogger aka Vanessa Pinto, and Ultra Violet - and more bay-area sex positive glitterati. We'll talk about everything from how to be more sexually empowered, feminine dominance, authenticity, to why the caviar service here isn't just scandalously culinarily incorrect but also (oh) so mind-blowingly lip-smacking good to making everyday household objects into sex toys for BDSM fantasies - which ones are safe for sex play and which ones aren't! More on the connection between food and sex, how you can take caviar or any kind of cuisine to the next level (recipes for pleasure)... how to avoid the thorny bits of sexual freedom and enjoy the good stuff, and the mysterious but magically effective making-out-with-other-people boomerang effect. If you're craving an evening like this where desire is celebrated, you'll need to request a personal invitation via e-mail sexplorationwithmonika(at)gmail.com. You can get a $50 discount on Midori's ForteFemme Women's Dominance Weekend Intensive with discount code "monika" in San Francisco July 20th to July 23rd, 2012 and New York Nov 2-4, 2012. Mmmmmmpower(ment), yum. 

Direct download: Sexploration120421_8CourseGourmetLive.mp3
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Fight Sex-Negativity: SF Alt Porn and Amsterdam Academia

How can we help make sexuality more open and free? How do public platforms and sex-positive community work to normalize sexual freedom? Does porn have a role in creating sexual freedom? Ruchamah Van der Horn has come all the way from the University of Amsterdam to discuss the use of public platforms to counter social and cultural stigma of sex, with the sex-positive community and producers of alternative porn here in the San Francisco Bay Area. The United States may be ridiculed for it's closed mindedness and sex-negativity (sheah, as if abstinence-only works) but actually that works in favor of creating fertile and outspoken sex-worker activism and advocacy. And does empowerment go with less creepy porn and more sexy porn? Can they be the same thing? Yes and no, and as long as it makes you happy (and is consensual) as our cheerful porn stars point out. Alice in Bondageland’s Go Ask Alice talks about how the SF Alternative porn scene is about authenticity with queer porn star Arabelle Raphael who says porn can teach you who you really are. Yes, that's Arabelle Raphael of such adult XXX film hits as "Occupy My Ass" and "Asphyxia Heels the World" We're not joking, but you can laugh especially with Token Straight Guy comedian Malcolm Grissom!! See? Sexuality IS a social justice issue that can "heel" the world, that's what we can learn from alternative porn... and it's consensual.

Direct download: Sexploration012712_SexPositivePorn.mp3
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Interview with a (man who wants to be a real) Fox!

You probably know someone who dresses up as a kitty for Halloween, or maybe you've worn ears and a tail once or twice... can you imagine wanting to be an animal for real? Meet Smash, dressed head-to-toe in a red latex fox suit at the supperclub bondage dinner (photo by Robert Tur). Smash even has rubber paws, and yips when you say hello. All he wants in the world is to be a collared pet, and Mistress Elisa, is glad to feed him in a dog bowl, hold his leash, and wait-till-you-hear more. Wanting to really be an animal is called “species dysphoria,” and far from being the only one, Smash has a pack of furry friends. These human animals even have a special event, a hunt. Imagine giving up human language and thought, all you have to worry about is eating, sleeping... and sex. Would you want to be (or have) a "living sex toy," as Elisa calls Smash? Apparently, as she says, foxes are “notoriously slutty.” Let's explore the inner life of Smash, a human fox, and his loving partner, Mistress Elisa. Themes include an animal environmentalism or ecosexuality, animal head space as a way to access the mental space of meditation (utter presence in the moment), and being wildly shame-free. Elisa and her  fox discuss why their play is definitely not bestiality, the different mental “fursonas” Smash indulges in, and the unique perspective one develops on the noisy human world through the eyes, ears, and soul of an animal.

Direct download: Sexploration111411_FoxInterview.mp3
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Sex parties vs sexy parties and a new way to find the G-spot

Do you think the G-spot could be the real Holy Grail? Everybody's always looking for it... and Michael Schuessler's surprising secret to finding what he calls "The Holy G-rail" is *texture!* Plus you'll learn some ways to intensify your orgasm and improve your health at the same time! Most people limit sex to the bedroom, but how do public sex spaces like Kinky Salon and the Armory change the way we relate to intimacy, pleasure, & each other? San Francisco's Sluttiest Blogger Vanessa Pinto aka Fleur De Lis and porn star and bondage rigger Jack Hammer describe parties where sex is literally on the table. Sex with strangers? Just how strange are they? Or how about a party where you only go to 2nd base, and people are making out on dozens of beds? Much of SF's sex-positive glitterati like Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, Margo St James, Club Kiss, Anon Salon, and Club Exotica are throwing their big sexY annual Halloween costume party, Masquerotica (2012's party is Saturday, October 21st). It's all the sexy of a 2nd base party, plus Bondage-A-Go-Go and Trannyshack, all the glam of the Hubba Hubba Revue, with all the attention to creating a safe space for sexual expression of Kinky Salon without "going all the way" and leaving room for thousands of people to shake their sexy groove things and make out unrepentantly.

Direct download: Sexploration110930_sexYpartiesG-rail.mp3
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supperclub bondage dinner

The supperclub bondage dinner is an evening of fine dining, performance art, and saucy, kinky sensuality. Artful, sexy aerialists, opera divas, live bondage riggers, and gender-bending burlesque dancers plus supperclub’s fabulous 4-course gourmet dinner.
Listen as Eve Minax will demonstrate a complete 3-level sensory-deprivation encasing a submissive woman in a full-body neoprene suit and gas mask and putting her in a latex bondage ball. Suspension bondage artist Rain DeGrey will have her way with the cutest pirate evarrrrr, pornstar Chloe Camilla. Liliane Hunt will mummify her boy, and sup her soup atop his chest. We’ll talk to Liliane’s boy about why he likes being a human table. It’s amazing the level of focus that it takes! Lilliane Hunt will tell us how to train HUMAN ponies and puppies – she even does it in public!
We’ll also meet professional dominatrix Mercy Wood, who specializes in religious play, and discuss the intersections of religion, sexuality, and BDSM. How can religion, which has been used to oppress people’s sexuality for so long, be such a turn-on for others? Can BDSM open your mind by challenging belief systems and even your perception of pain and pleasure?

Direct download: AprBD_A.mp3
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supperclub Bondage Dinner (March part 1)

The supperclub Bondage dinner is an evening of fine dining, performance art, and saucy, playful sensuality. Artful, sexy aerialists, opera divas, live bondage riggers, and gender-bending burlesque dancers plus Supperclub's fabulous 4-course gourmet dinner. Suspension bondage artists include Tom Foolery and Jessi K. Fire play with Eva Lucien and you willl ~never~ believe where Narcissister is hiding her outfit. We interview the founders of Playpen.com (a wiki-social networking website for porn stars) and pirates, wenches, and booty-licious bondage take over the supperclub. Hostess Miss Vee declares that “slut is the new black,” professional dominatrix and kink educator Eve Minax ponders how spirituality and BDSM are interconnected, why she adores smart-ass masochists and bratty bottoms, and the difference between control and “containment” by the discerning top.  While describing powerful performances by Eva Lucien and Narcissister, Monika delves into the entrepreneurial minds of Cathy Claudio and James Johnston, creators of Playpen.com, a website where adult models can monetize and express their own genuine, unscripted sexualities and directly reach fans.  Finally, oil painter and erotic photographer Nancy Peach lovingly describes a series she created that was too risqué even for the walls of San Francisco kink-friendly coffee shop, Wicked Grounds!

Direct download: BD03_2011A.mp3
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supperclub Bondage Dinner (March part 2)

This second installment from the pirate themed Supperclub Bondage Dinner, bondage rigger and service top, Tom Foolery fills us in on the suspension of Jessi K completed earlier in the evening for amazed dinner guests... just how high WAS his highest suspension?  Monika traces the evolution of guest Chris Kiss and Club Kiss, the swingers party at Mission Control in San Francisco.  He laughs about the overlapping of his work and personal life, reveals how having an open relationship can actually improve how couples relate with each other. How is working in the sex-positive community both rewarding and humbling?  Monika then gives us the inside scoop on an earlier bondage suspension scene by picking the blissed-out brain of Rusky, a bottom who tells us why she loves being upside-down and having her back arched, and her top and rigger for the evening, Topologist, who declares why humility is important for a top, describes his use of a “Swiss seat” in his art, and why his scene was even better than supperclub's Guinness flavored ice cream with almond honey brittle!

Direct download: BD03_2011B.mp3
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Sex Geek Potluck: 15 sexperts, a sex toy demo, and the ensuing hilarity

15 sex-intellectuals: porn star/physicist team makes scientific orgasm-measuring tech, tantric healears, dominatrix, lesbian-werewolf socially-concious erotica writer, male-submission activist, sex-worker activist - more sex-educators than at which you could shake a stick* (actually you could shake a stick at them, you just have to get consent* first), plus wine, sexintellectual interviews, & a spontaneous double demo of a safer-dual penetration pleasuring device from Japan. Featuring sex educator Reid Mihalko,  socially-conscious erotica writer Allison Moon, Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health founder Megan Andelloux, The Sexademic Jessi Fischer, Kink On Tap's MayMay, PSIgasm creators Maggie Mayhem and Ned, internet documentary SSexBBox filmmaker Priscilla Bertucci, Julianne Carroll filmmaker of "Sex Workers Your Voice Counts" dominatrix & sex-educator Eve Minax, Daka Spa Clinic's Tahil Gesyuk,  from Tahil's Daka Training Roland creator of the "My Big Phat Queer-Friendly Puja," and sex-worker rights activist Tessa. Reid and Ned demo the Tenga Docking Station with SF's Sluttiest Blogger Fleur DeLis. We also talk merkins, sex-positivity across cultures, how BDSM (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, masochism) & tanta & sacred sexuality are kinda the same thing, splunging...

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 supperclub Bondage Dinner (Part 1)

The importance of letting your fabulous freak flag fly is the tasty moral morsel served in this Supperclub Bondage Dinner. Monika interviews Therapist Excelsus Remington about opening up a relationship to freaky (fun) stuff like kink or polyamory while deftly avoiding the big snarling hornet’s nest of pain of jealousy and miscommunication. Hear the sweet song of Alotta Boute as she performs live and note Kink.com regular Rusky’s scientific explanation of, in spanking, the differences between “stingy” and “thuddy.” Donia and Tessa, give the scoop on why they turned down Howard Stern to talk about their educational and holistic business advocacy work for erotic service professionals. Sex isn't just about mere procreation anymore -  sex is healthy and fun recreation. For bondage enthusiasts wanting to reconnect with your memories of the first time, listen to a supperclub intern describe her first ever bondage experience and creating a safe space in which to explore. The Bondage Dinner is a monthly evening of exquisite dining, cutting-edge art performance, and use-all-5-senses sensationalism at Supperclub San Francisco. Photos of the bondage dinner: February Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner 

Direct download: 020411BD_Am.mp3
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supperclub Bondage Dinner (Part 2)

Image & identity, expression & art: part II of the broadcast from the Supperclub Bondage Dinner delves into the experience of performer and activist, Lady Monster, “Queen of the Fire Tassels.” She reveals the importance of a positive self-image no matter what your body-type, age, or gender identity. Learn the secrets behind the provocative "Naked Girls Reading" in SF & "Positively Lovely Workshop" teaching you how to love yourself *all over*. Monika & Lady Monster chat about the juicy rope suspension scene dangling in front of them & the unexpected joys of being upside-down! For the daring and delicious, Monika interviews Daan, Executive Chef, about serving exquisite delicacies in "dirty" shocking ways (you're going to eat off of what?!) Origionally from Amsterdam, Daan describes supperclub's unique 4-course dining and entertainment experience reflecting identity of the artists creating it. The supperclub Bondage Dinner is a glittering evening of dining, cutting-edge art performance, and all-5-senses sensationalism at Supperclub San Francisco. Photos of the bondage dinner: February Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner.

Direct download: 020411BD_Bm.mp3
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The BDSM Tea Party

In the BDSM Tea party, Monika has a cup of tea with a professional dominatrix, a male slave, a male dominant, and his female partner, a submissive and switch. Monika wants to know what it's like to beat men for a living, what's good about being flogged, and why on earth you'd seek a relationship where you would be exploited and hurt. How do you stay safe in a relationship that includes on-purpose pain and domination? The BDSM Tea party covers a range of topics in BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism including negotiation and consent. Then, Monika teaches them a trick... mmmmm, what can be done with cup of tea. Adult themes, civilized discussion, a cup of tea, The BDSM Tea Party, the pilot episode of Sexploration with Monika recorded in 2007. Sexploration with Monika is a forum for the open intellectual exploration of sexual ideas. Host Monika Thomas is a certified sexual health educator who also has taught classes about healthy relationships and rape & domestic violence prevention. Monika believes healthy consensual sexuality improves quality of life, and communication improves sexuality. Only you can define what "healthy sexuality" is for yourself, but authenticity and being present in the moment are recurring themes.

Direct download: Sexploration071022_BDSMTeaParty.mp3
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Xxxmas at supperclub Bondage Dinner (part 2)

Just when you thought kink was all red velvet and sugarplums, along comes part 2 of the XXXmas Supperclub Bondage Dinner, where a flogging scene becomes a little too intense for some. During an interview on how to check in with a submissive during a scene and the importance of aftercare with Kracker the Klown (the top from Part 1's powerful wax-play scene), suddenly Monika is interrupted by Supperclub staff and rushes off... what happened, why were people scared, and what went wrong? We'll even talk to the woman who was being flogged about her experience of the whole thing. Then, rigger and psychology writer Rick Umbaugh, discusses the role of understanding the self and overcoming fears as prescriptions for great sex. Plus, more festive freaky fun at Kinky Salon's Whobilation party where Monika interviews Molly Bottom about her new project, FoundationofSluts.org. How is being a slut connected to being your authentic self, having healthy boundaries, spirituality? Photos of the bondage dinner: December Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner   Join us for another epic night May 6th with live suspension bondage, dance and art performances, and 4 courses of outrageous beauty! sanfrancisco@supperclub.com

Direct download: XmasBondageB.mp3
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Xxxmas the supperclub Bondage Dinner (part 1)

On this episode, at the Sexploration with Monika's supperclub Bondage dinner, 10 of Santa's sexiest elves take the big man *down!* Festive shenanigans at Supperclub's Xxxmas Dinner. Interviews with sexy Santa Jack Hammer, Kinky Salon's Professor Dandy, Fleur DeLis, Kracker the Klown, Rick Umbaugh, a snowball fight with Crisco and wax play, and scary consensual spankings, oh my! Plus, more festive freaky fun at Kinky Salon's Whobilation!
The Bondage Dinner is a monthly evening of exquisite dining, cutting-edge art performance, and use-all-5-senses sensationalism at Supperclub San Francisco. Photos of the bondage dinner: December Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner   Join us for an extra-epic night in December 3rd with live suspension bondage, festively fetishtastic holiday mischief, and 4 courses of outrageous beauty! rsvp@supperclub.com

Direct download: XxmasBondageA.mp3
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Supperclub Bondage Dinner (August part 2)

These interviews were recorded at the Supperclub Bondage dinner, an evening of exquisite dining, cutting-edge art performance, and use-all-5-senses sensationalism. Dynamic suspension rope bondage with Tom Foolery & Jessi K, slam poet Jamie DeWolf, sex-party organizer Bix Warden, Miss Tickle, and S/m writer Rick Umbaugh. Plus a very provocative scene with dominatrix Alice (of AliceinBondageland.com) and Gumby, the gimp she 'made from scratch!' After the scene, I have meaningful and intense interviews with both Alice and Gumby to investigate what they get out of their sexual power exchange, and the connection between submission and unbridled sexuality. Photos of the bondage dinner: August Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner   Join us for an extra-epic night in December 3rd with live suspension bondage, festively fetishtastic holiday mischief, and 4 courses of outrageous beauty! rsvp@supperclub.com

Direct download: BDAugustpart2.mp3
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Supperclub Bondage Dinner (August part 1)

These interviews were recorded at the Supperclub Bondage dinner, an evening of exquisite dining, cutting-edge art performance, and use-all-5-senses sensationalism. Dynamic suspension rope bondage with Tom Foolery & Jessi K, slam poet Jamie DeWolf, sex-party organizer Bix Warden, Miss Tickle, and S/m writer Rick Umbaugh. Plus a very provocative scene with dominatrix Alice (of AliceinBondageland.com) and Gumby, the gimp she 'made from scratch!' After the scene, I have meaningful and intense interviews with both Alice and Gumby to investigate what they get out of their sexual power exchange, and the connection between submission and unbridled sexuality. Photos of the bondage dinner: August Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner   Join us for an extra-epic night in December 3rd with live suspension bondage, festively fetishtastic holiday mischief, and 4 courses of outrageous beauty! rsvp@supperclub.com

Direct download: BD0810_podcast.mp3
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