Sexploration with Monika
Sexploration with Monika
Sex-positive Parent, Race, History of Burlesque, & is that an Insult or Offer? (Sexy Circus Photo Shoot)

How does your identity affect your sexuality? Does it affect your ability to be open or your access to health care? How does race and class affect being gay, kinky, or polyamorous? We're at a photo shoot for Fleur De Lis SF's Sexy Circus (which will be @supperclub 9/20/12), sparkly clothes and ses-positive philosophies are flying. We talk to the sex-positive parent Airial Clark who just got her Master's in Human Sexuality writing about sexuality and intersecting identities. As a parent, you want your kids to be safe, have the right amount of information (not too much or too little), and not be ashamed of their bodies: how to be a sex-positive parent! What is age-appropriate sex-education? Do you ever have to pretend not to have a sex life when you are a mom or dad? What does this have to do with what you are ashamed of? Plus, a revival of classic sexitude: dancer Vagina Jenkins spills about an extra-special tent at the old-timey circus. What does this have to do with poles, snorting, and the herstory of burlesque? Everything; "hootchie"... and "cootchie" too! How is taking your clothes off a salute to working class women of the past? Finally, is "Suck my ___" an insult or an invitation? We ask MC Crumbsnatcher, "Can sex in a bathroom be special?" Why do people hook up in bathrooms in the first place and how to make it safer? Photo by Shilo McCabe of the Sex Positive Photo Project.

Direct download: Sexploration120617_SexyCircusShoot.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:31am PDT

Boobies Everywhere Need Your HELP!!!

Bouncy, pleasure-producing, and mesmerizing, everyone agrees that boobies are awesome... but you'll be surprised how sensitive breasts are not just sexually, but to our environment!  Breasts are getting bigger, arriving earlier and sucking up mysterious chemicals like estrogenic compounds and pesticides. What makes breasts so sensitive to toxins? In "Breasts: a Natural and Unnatural History" Florence Williams sets out to completely uncover boobs with the latest science in anthropology, biology, and medicine. She follows the breast through history from puberty to pregnancy to menopause, from eye-tracking studies (how many nanoseconds does it take for a guys to check out boobs?), a plastic surgeon’s office in Texas - all the way to a chemistry lab where she discovers the presence of environmental toxins in her own breast milk. Baby's first dose of JET FUEL? No wonder breast cancer hits one in eight women - but even men can get breast cancer, like a group of over 70 men who lived at the highly contaminated Camp Lejeune. We'll discuss the threats to boobies worldwide and how you can help save them. Florence describes her experience trying to avoid the toxins that end up in breast tissue, and get off-loaded to our children. How do you avoid touching plastic, or eating food that has never touched plastic? If you can't avoid these chemicals, how do we need to deal with the problem? Products with fragrances, plastics, BPA, pthalates, even store and ATM receipts, the chemicals that end up in our boobs are everywhere!

Direct download: Sexploration120607_Breasts.mp3
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You can have a THREE HOUR orgasm?

What's "the point" of having sex? Is the reason we have sex to achieve the climax of orgasm or is it to have the whole experience of pleasure and connection that you and your partner share? Sheri, of the Welcomed Consensus, tells us that if you can relax into the sensations without getting fixated on a goal, you can feel even more pleasure. In fact, every day for the last 25 years this educator and mother has made time with her partner for a practice that is all about pleasure. It's called "Deliberate Orgasm" or "DO'ing," and it's a practice that focuses attention on the sensations of the clitoris. Sheri says that you can start with even 3 minutes of this practice and start building more pleasure, actually changing your nervous system and allowing you to feel more pleasure, expanding your ability to feel the enegy in your own body. Both men and women can experience Deliberate Orgasm as givers or receivers, and Sheri said that the possibilities are unlimited, even a THREE HOUR ORGASM! We also talk about how the practice of DO'ing cultivates a deep sense of gratification that overflows into every part of her life, work, family, and all her relationships. (Imagine how much easier it is to be nice to everyone after you've had a 3-hour orgasm!!!)

Direct download: Sexploration120610_3HourOrgasm.mp3
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Live at the Masturbate-a-Thon 2012

The Masturbate-A-Thon is a charity event, like a walk-a-thon, that raises money and awareness except at the end your feet don't hurt... unless you have a really unique way of self-pleasuring! Every year at the Center for Sex and Culture, men and women get pledges or self-pledge and masturbate in public or in private to raise money for the Center For Sex and Culture, a non-profit adult sexuality education center in San Francisco. Porn star Sonny Nash goes hard for duration, trying to beat(off) last year's record of 9 hours and 59 minutes. You'll learn the critical importance of masturbation, how it literally got a bad name, and why sex-positive activists are trying to bring masturbation out of the closet. We'll interview sexologist Dr. Carol Queen co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture, Sister Taint A Virgin of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, Library Vixen, Fleur De Lis SF's sluttiest Blogger, and dominatrix Lady Ripplee Severin. Also I get a bit of a surprise - on my pants, woopsie, how did that happen? The Center for Sex and Culture's 12th annual Masturbate-A-Thon. 

Direct download: Sexploration120527_MasturbateAThon2012.mp3
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How is the idea that sex is an "addiction" hurting us?

Do you think that you could be addicted to sex or do you know someone you think is a "sex addict?" Has anyone ever said you were a sex addict? What does it mean if sex is an addiction? What does "addiction" mean? Is sex an addiction? David Ley, PhD is a clinical psychologist practicing in New Mexico. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but expanded his practice to include the promotion of healthy sexuality and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Dr. Ley discusses the root causes of addiction, brain chemistry, and pleasure chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin. How does sex affect the brain vs a drug or alcohol's effect? What are the real dangers of the diagnosis of "sex addiction" to free will, your relationship, and to society? What if sex-offenders & rapists get sentenced to sex-addiction treatment facilities rather than prison? What happens when sex is viewed as a disease and too much is believed to be dangerous? How is sex-addiction dangerous? It's a discussion critical to the sexual issues facing our society and it's not what most people think. Also, it has far-reaching consequences for people who like sex more than the average person and who practice kinds of sex that are not deemed "normal" by society. 

Direct download: Sexploration120318_SexAddiction.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:14am PDT