Sexploration with Monika
Sexploration with Monika
Kinky Salon's Merry Sexy Whobillation Party

You can explore with us the festivest sex party in San Francisco, Kinky Salon's Whobillation! Join us for a real "porn shoot" in the "Clounge," the lounge by the clowns of Klown Klub. Actually "the porn shoot" isn't what you think, but I didn't get the joke for awhile either, LOL. Join us for Scott and Polly's ridiculously festive cabaret, where Scotty the Blue Bunny rides a big red balloon and revelers shove the innuendo of candy-cane licking in our (and their) faces with a pepperminty contest. Bix of Velvet tells us how to start an all-girl sex party, and Sarah from Club Kiss spills how to tell your parents you're running a sex party. You'll hear some surprising things about the possibility of having an orgasm without even being touched, psycholagny, MRI's and brain activity. Plus we'll discuss how abstinence-only sex education work the opposite of the way parents are hoping. Plus during the holidays from hannukah to Christmas, it can be hard to take care of yourself, so Marcia Baczynski gives us a script for making boundaries, and saying no while saying yes to what we do want. Other sex-positive Mission Control luminaries like Tex, Lex, Illy, Bo from Gooferman, and Rose Pistola describe the kinds of intentional families and futures we're creating by playing, connecting, and loving and celebrating xmas, xxxmas, or whatever sparkles your snowflake in non-traditional sex-positive spaces like Kinky Salon.

Direct download: Sexploration121711_Whobillation.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:08pm PST

Sex Worker Advocacy, Activism w/ Lilly Ally + Maxine Holloway

Do you think there's something wrong with a woman literally owning her own sexuality? Does she have the right to choose on what terms she shares sex, even if that means she asks something in exchange? We've talked about the economics of sex and monogamy and how that affects everyone, but how would it affect you if prostitution were legalized? Instead of the "degrading" words for women and men who exchange erotic services for money, we use the word "sex-worker." Most people think one of the worst insults you can call a woman is "whore," but by marginalizing sex workers we allow them to be even more vulnerable to abuse, even from police. There are many different kinds of sex workers; male, female, and transgender, who work in porn, erotic dancing, escorting, dominating (BDSM), massage, tantra, and phone sex. Advocates and activists like Lilly Ally and Maxine Holloway seek to support sex-workers, decriminalize and destigmatize their work. Lilly Ally works with "erotic trailblazers" to power up their business models and seeks to honor the literal and figurative body of knowledge that erotic practitioners bring to our culture. Maxine Holloway is a webcam girl at Kink.com, a curator of events at Femina Potens, and started a support-group and live action burlesque-at-the-next-level for and by sex-workers show, called "Cum and Glitter." We'll talk about the importance of consent, being able to own and manage performances (from body hair to scripts), and self-sustainability - not just financially, but on all seven(!) levels.

Direct download: Sexploration121611_SexWorkerActivism.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30pm PST

Sexual economics: monogamy, scarcity, and abundance!

You may not think of sex as an economy, but think about how fear and optimism can affect the market. Now, think about how we are supposed to think about sex and relationships in our culture. The economy, the market, and stock prices can go up or down just because people are afraid of scarcity, afraid of lost jobs, or conversely feeling optimistic about the future and believing that something will make a lot of money. In sexuality, we're supposed to be monogamous, there's the idea of "the one," and supposedly the worst thing in the world is to be alone. Everyone is afraid of being alone, and if you want love and intimacy, multiple partner relationships are considered "dirty" or "cheating" by many people. Have you ever experienced a sense of scarcity in your sex life? Could you see sexuality as a kind of economy, and what would it take for you to feel "rich" and optimistic about love? How does no-other-option-for-love monogamy function in our sexual economy? We'll discuss the economics of sex and relationships with sexY-party expert Polly Whittaker of Kinky Salon. How is scarcity enforced in our sexualities, for instance: shame, fear of loneliness, and the commodification of "hotness." Find out how to become more free, have more authenticity and how to create abundance (in your pants)!!

Direct download: Sexploration120911_SexualEconomics.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:03am PST

Whore! beauty, power, and subverting dominant culture

Why should you celebrate female sexual power even if you are not female? What do YOU get out of sex-worker activism? How is your life better if being a "whore" isn't bad? Sexploration with Monika is on location at Whore Speaks! celebrating the 2nd issue of Whore! Magazine produced by Ginger Murray with performances celebrating creativity, female power and sexuality. We interview Dottie Lux of Red Hots Burlesque about beauty and subverting the dominant culture paradigm, and why she is wrapping her curves in packing tape. She'll tell you how she gets people's attention to get them to think about something important. Why is Red Hots Burlesque so intellectual? Because the sexiest part of your body is your brain. Ginger, of Whore! Magazine, tells us why she has a penis glued to her girdle and we talk about gender, celebrating not fitting in, and authenticity. Learn why she called her magazine "Whore!" and how she promotes sexual power for all genders, smashing the barrier between sexy and smart. Photo of Dottie Lux c 2011 by Amber Gregory Photography. You can subscribe to Sexploration with Monika!

Direct download: Sexploration120511_WhoreSpeaks.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 5:08pm PST

The Erotic 8-Course Gourmet Dinner

The intersection of cuisine and sensuality is pleasure, and "Our Gourmet Life" wants to be a literally saucy playground. The 8-course erotic dinner was created by Chris, Beth, and Kal in private homes around SF to entice you into their world of open eroticism and delicious play. How do they create a safe space for their servers to be topless among strangers? How can you make a menu erotic? A surprising leafy aphrodisiac? How can we encourage the opening up of both female and male sexuality? In the podcast, we'll talk about how they combine open sexuality and epicurean bliss, and take 16 - 20 guests on a lascivious, delicious adventure. If YOU are craving an evening where desire is celebrated, request an invitation via e-mail at sexplorationwithmonika(at)gmail.com. The 8-course erotic dinner is a gourmet French-inspired meal, made each time from scratch and fresh organic ingredients. The dinner is every other Saturday at 7:00pm and it often sells out. Sexploration with Monika has infiltrated the private location (in a fully consensual way without compromising any identities), chatting with Midori, and Ken, the orgasmically meditating sioux chef. Send me a message, I dare you... this evening has the kind of promise you whisper. Sexual freedom isn't "easy"... but there's no virtue in being difficult! Let's talk about it: subscribe to Sexploration with Monika podcasts on iTunes, or download free episodes anytime at SexplorationwithMonika.com. 

Direct download: 8CourseEroticDinner.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:23am PST

Interview with a (man who wants to be a real) Fox!

You probably know someone who dresses up as a kitty for Halloween, or maybe you've worn ears and a tail once or twice... can you imagine wanting to be an animal for real? Meet Smash, dressed head-to-toe in a red latex fox suit at the supperclub bondage dinner (photo by Robert Tur). Smash even has rubber paws, and yips when you say hello. All he wants in the world is to be a collared pet, and Mistress Elisa, is glad to feed him in a dog bowl, hold his leash, and wait-till-you-hear more. Wanting to really be an animal is called “species dysphoria,” and far from being the only one, Smash has a pack of furry friends. These human animals even have a special event, a hunt. Imagine giving up human language and thought, all you have to worry about is eating, sleeping... and sex. Would you want to be (or have) a "living sex toy," as Elisa calls Smash? Apparently, as she says, foxes are “notoriously slutty.” Let's explore the inner life of Smash, a human fox, and his loving partner, Mistress Elisa. Themes include an animal environmentalism or ecosexuality, animal head space as a way to access the mental space of meditation (utter presence in the moment), and being wildly shame-free. Elisa and her  fox discuss why their play is definitely not bestiality, the different mental “fursonas” Smash indulges in, and the unique perspective one develops on the noisy human world through the eyes, ears, and soul of an animal.

Direct download: Sexploration111411_FoxInterview.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:15am PST

Add sizzle back into your relationship, and then really turn it up!

You're in a relationship: at first you are having MIND-BLOWING SEX all the time, but after a while you're having "efficient sex" & then eventually, maybe no sex at all! Why does that always happen in long-term relationships? :( Do you want have long-lasting love plus all the sizzling sex? Tim & Susan Bratton have been there, together for almost 20 years... after about 5 years they were like friends – co-habitating, raising their daughter – but they’d lost the sexual intimacy. He wanted to leave her because he was essentially in a sexless marriage. She wanted him to leave him because he was checked out of the relationship. Tim and Susan knew they couldn’t do any better than each other as far as spouses. All they could do was divorce and trade each other in for a “fresh model.” But they wanted their cake (love) and getting it all over their faces too so they worked really hard to figure out how  to get their sexy back... with sizzle to spare! Since this was such a common issue for couples, Susan created "Revive Her Drive" to share her secrets with husbands everywhere. Special "carried away" bonus for smartphone listeners from “Hot sex: Over 200 things you can try tonight.” Then, "Dr" Diego of Love Toy Rentals rev's it up past 11 with pleasure technology that women are saying is a bigger thrill than the hitachi magic wand. Professional dominatrix and sex educator Eve Minax said that her orgasm was so strong that not only did her little dog start howling with her but her head nearly exploded, no really. With Token Straight Guy comedian Paul Brumbaugh from FCC Free Radio's "The Edge of Insanity!" What does the sybian really feel like? Inquiring minds...

Direct download: Sexploration102111_ReviveHerDrive.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:57am PST

Sex at Dawn: were prehistoric humans "sluts?"

Do you think that monogamy is "natural" for humans or did we evolve to be "slutty?" In this Sexploration with Monika special episode, Christpher Ryan, author of Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, explains evidence from anthropology, anatomy, & primatology indicating that our ancestors were promiscuous, and not only shared sex partners but lived in egalitarian groups that shared food, child care, and probably didn't really care which baby was whose. Ryan and Jethá confront why long-term fidelity can be so difficult for so many, why homosexuality persists in the face of standard evolutionary logic; and what the human body reveals about the prehistoric origins of modern sexuality. Ryan and Jethá expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity. Plus, in this interview recorded at San Francisco's Center for Sex and Culture, Ryan explains why external testicles are like having an extra fridge in the garage just for beer, because you are ready for a party to break out at *any* time. Sexploration with Monika is now on iTunes, and you can download free podcasts anytime at http://www.SexplorationwithMonika.com. 

Direct download: Sexploration111109_SexAtDawn.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:53pm PST

 Masquerotica live and on-location from SF's 1st annual

You can come on a roving exploration of the big sexy epic Masquerotica, chatting with Annie Sprinkle, porn star parodist Tom Orr, Margo St James founder of COYOTE and the St James Infirmary, burlesque dancer and body-image activist Lady Monster, SF's sluttiest blogger Fleur De Lis, the Asian Diva Girls, democracy activists Tony's Circus, and more zombie strippers than at which you can shake bloody doll parts. I couldn't really chat with the zombie strippers, they just groan and moan but at least they love me for my brains. Masquerotica, October 22nd, was the 1st annual Halloween celebration from the creators of the Sea of Dreams NYE party, Opulent Temple and FreshSF. Nine stages and exotic playgrounds of indulgence and really smart eye candy like the spectacular Kinky Salon XXX Funhouse with not only zombie strippers but also vampires, jungle savages, and the Grope-a-Clown booth. Plus an excellent point about tax dollars and sex work made by a villanous goose-duck. The Hooker's Ball Brothello MC'd by Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen of Center for Sex & Culture, Margo St James and yours truly. (Thanks to Herman Privette for this photo of Carol & Annie!) More photos here.

Direct download: Sexploration111022_LiveatMasquerotica.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:37am PST

COYOTE/St James Infirmary Margo St James, Non-monogamy, Sex Ed

You'll hear legendary sex-positive feminist Margo St James talk about the birth of the sex-worker rights movement in San Francisco plus her checkered past with politics, law-enforcement, and her relationship with Paul Avery, a newspaper man of note. Margo St. James founded COYOTE "Call Off Your Old Tired Ethics" the sex-worker activism group in 1973 after novelist Tom Robbins called St. James “the coyote trickster.” Margo St James also ran and won San Francisco Board of Supervisors and founded the St James Infirmary, a clinic for sex-workers. Margo St James, Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, and I are also curating the Hooker’s Ball Brothello stage at Masquerotica on Saturday, October 22nd. Plus, we'll talk about the trials and joys of open relationships and asking for what you want with Marcia Baczynski, and erotic edu-tainer Spycey Spyce will make us giggle while teaching about safer sex and intimate communication. With Token Straight Guy Johnny Wang! Photo by Herman Privette. 

Direct download: Sexploration111014_MargoSpycey.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:45am PST

Sex parties vs sexy parties and a new way to find the G-spot

Do you think the G-spot could be the real Holy Grail? Everybody's always looking for it... and Michael Schuessler's surprising secret to finding what he calls "The Holy G-rail" is *texture!* Plus you'll learn some ways to intensify your orgasm and improve your health at the same time! Most people limit sex to the bedroom, but how do public sex spaces like Kinky Salon and the Armory change the way we relate to intimacy, pleasure, & each other? San Francisco's Sluttiest Blogger Vanessa Pinto aka Fleur De Lis and porn star and bondage rigger Jack Hammer describe parties where sex is literally on the table. Sex with strangers? Just how strange are they? Or how about a party where you only go to 2nd base, and people are making out on dozens of beds? Much of SF's sex-positive glitterati like Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, Margo St James, Club Kiss, Anon Salon, and Club Exotica are throwing their big sexY annual Halloween costume party, Masquerotica (2012's party is Saturday, October 21st). It's all the sexy of a 2nd base party, plus Bondage-A-Go-Go and Trannyshack, all the glam of the Hubba Hubba Revue, with all the attention to creating a safe space for sexual expression of Kinky Salon without "going all the way" and leaving room for thousands of people to shake their sexy groove things and make out unrepentantly.

Direct download: Sexploration110930_sexYpartiesG-rail.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:15pm PST

supperclub bondage dinner

The supperclub bondage dinner is an evening of fine dining, performance art, and saucy, kinky sensuality. Artful, sexy aerialists, opera divas, live bondage riggers, and gender-bending burlesque dancers plus supperclub’s fabulous 4-course gourmet dinner.
Listen as Eve Minax will demonstrate a complete 3-level sensory-deprivation encasing a submissive woman in a full-body neoprene suit and gas mask and putting her in a latex bondage ball. Suspension bondage artist Rain DeGrey will have her way with the cutest pirate evarrrrr, pornstar Chloe Camilla. Liliane Hunt will mummify her boy, and sup her soup atop his chest. We’ll talk to Liliane’s boy about why he likes being a human table. It’s amazing the level of focus that it takes! Lilliane Hunt will tell us how to train HUMAN ponies and puppies – she even does it in public!
We’ll also meet professional dominatrix Mercy Wood, who specializes in religious play, and discuss the intersections of religion, sexuality, and BDSM. How can religion, which has been used to oppress people’s sexuality for so long, be such a turn-on for others? Can BDSM open your mind by challenging belief systems and even your perception of pain and pleasure?

Direct download: AprBD_A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:51pm PST

You can have an Orgasm for 15 minutes!!!

How can you have an orgasm for 15 MINUTES? Nicole describes her clitoral meditation practice as a 15 minute orgasm. In this segment of Sexploration with Monika, we talk with Nicole Daedone, author of "Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm" and founder of One Taste, a sexuality & spirituality education community. She tells us about Orgasmic Meditation or "OMing." Maybe you also have felt that with all the pressures & expectations around sex and in our daily life... it can be harder to get turned on or have an orgasm. Nicole shares her secrets on how to tune in to pleasure - and how to turn being turned on into not just sexual power, but personal power in your daily life!! Nicole & Monika discuss how orgasm and female sexuality can sometimes feel like a Chinese finger trap. How are women conditioned to feel about sexuality & their bodies? You can train yourself to experience more of the sexual power that is already inside of you - without relying on increasing stimulation. With the awareness/pleasure feedback loop, you can increase your turn on exponentially! Learn how to leave "a goal" behind, create a safe space, and add fuel to your inner fire. And she covers clitoris cartography - Orgasmic Meditation can be acupressure for your clit! You can also watch the video of her TEDxSanFrancisco talk, "Orgasm: the Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman." Nicole Daedone wants to share how sexuality can be spiritual, and how you can use awareness to experience even more pleasure on Sexploration with Monika.

Direct download: NicoleOM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:07am PST

SaferSexC, an "open" relationship, and restraint as art

Do you know how to kill the Hepatitis C virus? Hepatitus C is a virus that damages the liver and it is spread by many kinds of kinky play, rough sex, sharing razors or nail clippers. Most people who have Hep C don't know they are infected because they don't have symptoms, and HCV tests are not routine. You have to ask your doctor to get tested. Learn how to play safely and avoid getting Hep C from Leather Daddy Boy & HepC/HIV outreach activist Jorge Vieto, of the Stop AIDS Project. We talk about public health & HIV Hepatitis Outreach and why it's so important that everyone get tested and get educated so you can reduce your risk. Jorge does testing in tattoo shops in the Castro, and he tells us why he likes piercing as a kind of erotic sensation play. We also talk about how much tougher the Hep C virus is to kill than the HIV virus (bleach doesn't always work - but we talk about what does kill Hep C). Jorge will tell us a really shocking way people can get exposed to Hep C without even realizing it! Then we will talk about how to open your marriage in a safe way with Andrew Sullivan. "Open Invitation: A Real Swinger's Party" is an adult film that is an invitation to the viewer to fulfill their fantasies! Plus, kink star Maxine Holloway of the Femina Potens art gallery will tell us about the "Art of Restraint." You can also check out SaferSexC.org for more information on preventing the spread of Hepatitis C in the Kink Community.

Direct download: SaferSexC.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:09pm PST

supperclub Bondage Dinner (March part 1)

The supperclub Bondage dinner is an evening of fine dining, performance art, and saucy, playful sensuality. Artful, sexy aerialists, opera divas, live bondage riggers, and gender-bending burlesque dancers plus Supperclub's fabulous 4-course gourmet dinner. Suspension bondage artists include Tom Foolery and Jessi K. Fire play with Eva Lucien and you willl ~never~ believe where Narcissister is hiding her outfit. We interview the founders of Playpen.com (a wiki-social networking website for porn stars) and pirates, wenches, and booty-licious bondage take over the supperclub. Hostess Miss Vee declares that “slut is the new black,” professional dominatrix and kink educator Eve Minax ponders how spirituality and BDSM are interconnected, why she adores smart-ass masochists and bratty bottoms, and the difference between control and “containment” by the discerning top.  While describing powerful performances by Eva Lucien and Narcissister, Monika delves into the entrepreneurial minds of Cathy Claudio and James Johnston, creators of Playpen.com, a website where adult models can monetize and express their own genuine, unscripted sexualities and directly reach fans.  Finally, oil painter and erotic photographer Nancy Peach lovingly describes a series she created that was too risqué even for the walls of San Francisco kink-friendly coffee shop, Wicked Grounds!

Direct download: BD03_2011A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:42pm PST

supperclub Bondage Dinner (March part 2)

This second installment from the pirate themed Supperclub Bondage Dinner, bondage rigger and service top, Tom Foolery fills us in on the suspension of Jessi K completed earlier in the evening for amazed dinner guests... just how high WAS his highest suspension?  Monika traces the evolution of guest Chris Kiss and Club Kiss, the swingers party at Mission Control in San Francisco.  He laughs about the overlapping of his work and personal life, reveals how having an open relationship can actually improve how couples relate with each other. How is working in the sex-positive community both rewarding and humbling?  Monika then gives us the inside scoop on an earlier bondage suspension scene by picking the blissed-out brain of Rusky, a bottom who tells us why she loves being upside-down and having her back arched, and her top and rigger for the evening, Topologist, who declares why humility is important for a top, describes his use of a “Swiss seat” in his art, and why his scene was even better than supperclub's Guinness flavored ice cream with almond honey brittle!

Direct download: BD03_2011B.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:22pm PST

Sex Geek Potluck: 15 sexperts, a sex toy demo, and the ensuing hilarity

15 sex-intellectuals: porn star/physicist team makes scientific orgasm-measuring tech, tantric healears, dominatrix, lesbian-werewolf socially-concious erotica writer, male-submission activist, sex-worker activist - more sex-educators than at which you could shake a stick* (actually you could shake a stick at them, you just have to get consent* first), plus wine, sexintellectual interviews, & a spontaneous double demo of a safer-dual penetration pleasuring device from Japan. Featuring sex educator Reid Mihalko,  socially-conscious erotica writer Allison Moon, Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health founder Megan Andelloux, The Sexademic Jessi Fischer, Kink On Tap's MayMay, PSIgasm creators Maggie Mayhem and Ned, internet documentary SSexBBox filmmaker Priscilla Bertucci, Julianne Carroll filmmaker of "Sex Workers Your Voice Counts" dominatrix & sex-educator Eve Minax, Daka Spa Clinic's Tahil Gesyuk,  from Tahil's Daka Training Roland creator of the "My Big Phat Queer-Friendly Puja," and sex-worker rights activist Tessa. Reid and Ned demo the Tenga Docking Station with SF's Sluttiest Blogger Fleur DeLis. We also talk merkins, sex-positivity across cultures, how BDSM (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, masochism) & tanta & sacred sexuality are kinda the same thing, splunging...

Direct download: sexgeek140.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:25pm PST

 supperclub Bondage Dinner (Part 1)

The importance of letting your fabulous freak flag fly is the tasty moral morsel served in this Supperclub Bondage Dinner. Monika interviews Therapist Excelsus Remington about opening up a relationship to freaky (fun) stuff like kink or polyamory while deftly avoiding the big snarling hornet’s nest of pain of jealousy and miscommunication. Hear the sweet song of Alotta Boute as she performs live and note Kink.com regular Rusky’s scientific explanation of, in spanking, the differences between “stingy” and “thuddy.” Donia and Tessa, give the scoop on why they turned down Howard Stern to talk about their educational and holistic business advocacy work for erotic service professionals. Sex isn't just about mere procreation anymore -  sex is healthy and fun recreation. For bondage enthusiasts wanting to reconnect with your memories of the first time, listen to a supperclub intern describe her first ever bondage experience and creating a safe space in which to explore. The Bondage Dinner is a monthly evening of exquisite dining, cutting-edge art performance, and use-all-5-senses sensationalism at Supperclub San Francisco. Photos of the bondage dinner: February Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner 

Direct download: 020411BD_Am.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:55pm PST

supperclub Bondage Dinner (Part 2)

Image & identity, expression & art: part II of the broadcast from the Supperclub Bondage Dinner delves into the experience of performer and activist, Lady Monster, “Queen of the Fire Tassels.” She reveals the importance of a positive self-image no matter what your body-type, age, or gender identity. Learn the secrets behind the provocative "Naked Girls Reading" in SF & "Positively Lovely Workshop" teaching you how to love yourself *all over*. Monika & Lady Monster chat about the juicy rope suspension scene dangling in front of them & the unexpected joys of being upside-down! For the daring and delicious, Monika interviews Daan, Executive Chef, about serving exquisite delicacies in "dirty" shocking ways (you're going to eat off of what?!) Origionally from Amsterdam, Daan describes supperclub's unique 4-course dining and entertainment experience reflecting identity of the artists creating it. The supperclub Bondage Dinner is a glittering evening of dining, cutting-edge art performance, and all-5-senses sensationalism at Supperclub San Francisco. Photos of the bondage dinner: February Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner.

Direct download: 020411BD_Bm.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:47pm PST

Orgasmic Birth: "Labor" can be pleasurable?

You have probably heard for your whole life that childbirth and labor are the most painful thing ever. The suffering that your mother probably went through to bring you into this world! What if childbirth could actually be, not only a pleasant experience, but literally orgasmic? Filmmaker and Lamaze-certified midwife Debra Pascali-Bonaro will tell us how women can increase their chances of having an actual orgasm during birthing, what for so long has been called "labor." Not only are the brain chemicals, like oxytocin, released during sex present during childbirth, but the sorts of things that make for a "romantic experience" soft lighting, a hot tub, pleasant smells, a glass of wine, making out with your partner, focusing on the sensations of the body - are all things things could lead to not only a more pleasant labor experience, but maybe even an actual orgasm!! According to mother Amber Hartnell, her orgasm during labor really didn't feel any different than the kind of orgasm you could have during intercourse. 

Direct download: OrgasmicBirth.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:21am PST

Masturbate-A-Thon w/ Nina Hartley benefits Center for Sex & Culture

On-Location broadcast from the Masturbate-A-Thon 2008, a charity event where men and women masturbate in public and in private to raise money for the Center For Sex and Culture, a non-profit adult sexuality education center in San Francisco. Besides trying to beat(off) the world record of 9 hours and 33 minutes, there are a number of competitions, including number of orgasms in a given time and "distance." We discuss self-pleasuring,  threesomes, multiple-partner relationships, BDSM, gender-bending, sex-education, and vagina-in-a-can with porn star & sex-educator Nina Hartley, Sexologist Dr.Carol Queen and her partner Robert, founders of the Center for Sex and Culture. Also post-segment quippery with Lilycat of FCC Free Radio, who stage-manages the event. Plus the delightful masturbation sing-along with the Wet Spots. You can join the next Masturbate-a-Thon (privately or publicly) in May or just support sex-positive culture at the Center For Sex and Culture.

Direct download: Mthon.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:44am PST

Anti-Rape Condom: radio short

This clever (but horrible & gruesome) method for ending sexual assault was too much for my broadcast station (even at 5am on a Saturday morning) but as a woman who is passionate about this issue, I wasn't able to sleep until I thought of a way to talk about it without talking about it. On-air, I called the Anti-Rape Condom (brand-name Rapex) a "sexual-assault prophylactic." I wouldn't say what it did on the radio, but I'd tell listeners about it over the phone, and then play back their reactions on-air. Generated more calls than I usually got at 5am, that's for sure.

In addition to my work in radio, I'm also a certified sexual health educator and I teach "Healthy Relationship" classes about rape and domestic violence prevention at City College of San Francisco, and local high schools.

Direct download: AntiRapeCondomAnon.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PST

Female Ejaculation: Grrls can have squirting orgasms too?

You've heard of the G-Spot, which some scientists have disputed even exists(!), but Tallulah Sulis has found hers and she want to help you find yours. If the G-Spot orgasm, or "Female Ejaculation", isn't a "circus trick" or pee... what is it? How come most women don't know anything about female ejaculation? Tallulah Sulis is Sexploration with Monika's "squirtxpert" - expert in all things to do with female ejaculation. Ms. Sulis is a Certified Somatic Sexologist and director and producer of the film "Divine Nectar: A Guide to Female Ejaculation." We discuss how she figured out she could do this, what to do if your partner freaks out, and how to awaken sensation in your G-Spot. We also learned what organ produces ejaculate, and it's chemical composition - and how you can be *sure* that it's not pee. Would you like to know how to help your girlfriend or wife ejaculate? Tallulah and I discuss everything from how to bring up the conversation to creating a "safe container." Tallulah is all about getting in touch with the sensations of pleasure and expressing your wild female sexuality! She now is conducting "Squirtshops" in the SF Bay Area, teaching women how to ejaculate.   

Direct download: DivineNectr2parts.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:50pm PST

Sex Robots: sex + technology = ?

You can join me at the Arse Elektronika Porn & Technology conference where they had a sex robot that looked like Johnny 5. One arm of the sex robot is a "tongue saw," with 12 moulded rubber tongues that flap around in a circle, back through a bucket of lube, with variable speeds. One women who tried it said that it feels "mechanical". Mmmmmmechanical? Are sex robots the future of sex? We talk with Binx, a fabulous young lady who gave the sex robot for a spin (on a whim), ejaculated, and had this spectacular explosively pleasurable experience (behind a sheet). We also talk to Jake and Ian who work for the company that owned the sex robot. We talk about all the strange machines that have been invented or modified for sexual pleasure (egg beaters, power tools, electrical zappers) and what it means to have sex with a robot. Is having sex with a robot cheating on your boyfriend? What if he gets jealous? Does having sex with a robot "ruin" sex with a normal person? What does female ejaculation feel like? Can you be a feminist and have sex with a robot (in front of a roomful of people)? Is there feminist pornography? What happens if you are having long-distance computer-assisted sex with a robot, and someone hacks into your connection so now you are having sex with a robot that is no longer controlled by your boyfriend? Consent in the context of computer security and tele-dildonics? What if someone wants to marry their robot someday?

Direct download: Sexploration071012_theSexRobot.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:02pm PST

Masculinism: what men get out of gender role liberation

Have you ever wondered how to leave a woman wanting more? Have you ever wondered what it's like to have a penis? Monika has, and gets the lowdown on having penis and how to use it from Erotic Rockstar Destin Gerek. Destin is a Certified Somatic Sexologist and Orgasmic Mastery educator who teaches men how to have multiple orgasms. That wasn't a typo. He teaches a course on multiple orgasms for MEN! We delve into radical masculinity, liberation from gender roles, how to 'nail' hot feminist chicks, sexual self actualization, and how to change the culture of rape. The Erotic Rockstar divulges his philosophy on how to find and become your ideal sexual self, be present in your body and your sexual explorations, and get more out of your erotic encounters than a “quick and silent” orgasm. Have you ever wondered how to leave a woman wanting more? Mmmore. Find out why being a “pick up artist” leads to attracting insecure women and exacerbating "the battle of the sexes." Instead, learn the secret of how to "entice her desire." Yum.

Direct download: Masculinism.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:15pm PST

The BDSM Tea Party

In the BDSM Tea party, Monika has a cup of tea with a professional dominatrix, a male slave, a male dominant, and his female partner, a submissive and switch. Monika wants to know what it's like to beat men for a living, what's good about being flogged, and why on earth you'd seek a relationship where you would be exploited and hurt. How do you stay safe in a relationship that includes on-purpose pain and domination? The BDSM Tea party covers a range of topics in BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism including negotiation and consent. Then, Monika teaches them a trick... mmmmm, what can be done with cup of tea. Adult themes, civilized discussion, a cup of tea, The BDSM Tea Party, the pilot episode of Sexploration with Monika recorded in 2007. Sexploration with Monika is a forum for the open intellectual exploration of sexual ideas. Host Monika Thomas is a certified sexual health educator who also has taught classes about healthy relationships and rape & domestic violence prevention. Monika believes healthy consensual sexuality improves quality of life, and communication improves sexuality. Only you can define what "healthy sexuality" is for yourself, but authenticity and being present in the moment are recurring themes.

Direct download: Sexploration071022_BDSMTeaParty.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:34pm PST

Xxxmas at supperclub Bondage Dinner (part 2)

Just when you thought kink was all red velvet and sugarplums, along comes part 2 of the XXXmas Supperclub Bondage Dinner, where a flogging scene becomes a little too intense for some. During an interview on how to check in with a submissive during a scene and the importance of aftercare with Kracker the Klown (the top from Part 1's powerful wax-play scene), suddenly Monika is interrupted by Supperclub staff and rushes off... what happened, why were people scared, and what went wrong? We'll even talk to the woman who was being flogged about her experience of the whole thing. Then, rigger and psychology writer Rick Umbaugh, discusses the role of understanding the self and overcoming fears as prescriptions for great sex. Plus, more festive freaky fun at Kinky Salon's Whobilation party where Monika interviews Molly Bottom about her new project, FoundationofSluts.org. How is being a slut connected to being your authentic self, having healthy boundaries, spirituality? Photos of the bondage dinner: December Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner   Join us for another epic night May 6th with live suspension bondage, dance and art performances, and 4 courses of outrageous beauty! sanfrancisco@supperclub.com

Direct download: XmasBondageB.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:15pm PST

Xxxmas the supperclub Bondage Dinner (part 1)

On this episode, at the Sexploration with Monika's supperclub Bondage dinner, 10 of Santa's sexiest elves take the big man *down!* Festive shenanigans at Supperclub's Xxxmas Dinner. Interviews with sexy Santa Jack Hammer, Kinky Salon's Professor Dandy, Fleur DeLis, Kracker the Klown, Rick Umbaugh, a snowball fight with Crisco and wax play, and scary consensual spankings, oh my! Plus, more festive freaky fun at Kinky Salon's Whobilation!
The Bondage Dinner is a monthly evening of exquisite dining, cutting-edge art performance, and use-all-5-senses sensationalism at Supperclub San Francisco. Photos of the bondage dinner: December Dinner or  Best of Bondage Dinner   Join us for an extra-epic night in December 3rd with live suspension bondage, festively fetishtastic holiday mischief, and 4 courses of outrageous beauty! rsvp@supperclub.com

Direct download: XxmasBondageA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:19pm PST